Toolbox for Surviving Middle School

How do I tell a boy I like that I like him?

2009-08-10T21:30:00.000-07:00

Dear Sepideh,

How do I tell a boy I like that I like him without sounding crazy?

LeeAnna, FL

Solution:

Make sure to keep it private – let him know privately without his friends around
Write a letter to him
Make sure not to overdo it – e.g. don’t write ten letters. One is enough

Feeling out of control

2009-08-10T21:29:00.000-07:00

Coach,

I can’t help but want to know all the details of my families’ schedules and daily routine. I feel so uncomfortable, scared and not in control when I don’t know what is going on, is this normal?

- Kim, CA

Solution:

Make a group planner that is easy for everybody to keep updated (electronic or paper)
Try to calm down by meditating
Ask more questions – make time to communicate with your family members

Hard to fit in

2009-08-10T21:28:00.000-07:00

Sepideh,

I don’t have a lot of friends in middle school and it’s hard for me to fit in with any groups. Sometimes I say things I regret later, I can’t make normal conversations. Any advice?

- Penny, SC

Solution:

Find people with same interest – look at clubs, student government, activities, or guidance counselor
Be more aware of what you say. Pause for a moment to think about what you are about to say
Offer your help. Volunteers are often welcome

Am I being selfish?

2009-08-10T21:27:00.000-07:00

Dear Coach,

I have always felt different from my family. I have a younger sister and a baby brother who seem to get all the attention. Mom & Dad never have time for me. I feel invisible, am I being selfish?

-Lisa, NY

Solution:

- Find ways to get more involved with your own family
- Find a friend to keep you company
- Talk with your parents at the dinner table about your feelings

About this blog

2009-08-10T21:17:00.000-07:00

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Surviving Middle School

The following questions were received from middle school students across the country. Our team of middle schoolers discussed the questions and came up with their own solutions. If you or someone you know is experiencing a challenge, write to us at sepideh@inspiredbysepideh.com with questions for surviving middle school in the subject line. Then check back here for the solution.